Monday, February 8, 2016

5 Things No One Tells You About Motherhood

As we are getting closer to adding the second baby into our chaos I think about some things I wish someone would have mentioned at the beginning. Motherhood is an amazing blessing but boy is it tough! Nothing can fully prepare you but here are some helpful thing to keep in mind and remember you are not going crazy! Motherhood is one hell of a roller coaster. Hang on tight. It is all worth it! I promise.


1. You will cry. A lot! You cry when you see those first two lines on the pregnancy test. You will cry at doctor's appointments or driving to them when a random song comes on the radio. You will cry when your spouse eats the last bite of ice cream you have been craving all day. You will cry when your baby is born, while looking at the miracle you created. You will cry they are growing to fast or that you haven't slept in 3 days or crying because you can't stop crying. Then you are crying because your bathroom wall looks like a wig. The hair loss is unreal. It happens it is normal! Though let me say if the tears and ongoing sadness does last longer than a few weeks postpartum, definitely talk with your doctor. Postpartum depression is real folks! Do what is best for you and your children.

2. You will love your children like you never thought you could love before, it is terrifying. I never ever thought I would be able to love a tiny little human so much. I worry about being able to love another tiny human as much as Kinley. People keep telling me my heart will grow and I am holding on to that. You love them so much it hurts. You want nothing bad to happen to them. You worry about everything when it comes to them. No one can prepare you for the love you will feel and at the end of the day it makes everything all worth it. Even the sleepless nights.


3. You will miss some of the times that were the hardest. There were many nights it was so hard to get up 16 times to breastfeed her or the midnight screams. Let me tell you though, I miss some of those moments now. It was so memorable looking at her so innocent and amazing, knowing she just needed something only I could give her. I look back and think wow how I miss that look in her eyes. They are only little once and you never get that time back with them. Enjoy the snuggles at 2am because some day soon they won't want anything to deal with us and we will miss it asking for the snuggles back.

4. You can function on no sleep and you will. See number 2. It is all worth it. All the coffee and wine in the world can't help you after some of those nights. But you survive and guess what you are able to do it again the next night. I wonder how I survived some nights we had with Kinley. But we did and I managed to work full time and keep my marriage together. Don't get me wrong we almost killed each other a few of those nights but at the end of the day we knew we were in it together and we would not have survived it without each other.

5. And after all of that you will be willing to do it all over again. As we are getting closer and closer to meeting this baby boy all of these run through my head on a daily basis. I always knew I wanted Kinley to have a sibling and share some sibling experiences I have been able to make with my siblings. Matt on the other hand was adamant we were one and done. Though after much discussion we both knew that nothing could replace the joy in our hearts she has given to us. We know that deep down this little boy will do the same. Children are an amazing blessing and make you question everything in your life, but at the end of the day I wouldn't trade it for the world. I can't imagine my life without Kinley and I am sure very soon I will feel the same way about this little boy growing in me.


Lean on your supports, let people help when they offer. It truly takes a village to raise children and I am so thankful to have some of the best supports out there. Now go snuggle your little ones!

34 comments:

  1. Love this! It's all true. I thought I never wanted to go through the newborn stage again, but I'm starting to want another baby!

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    1. They are so cute and snuggly at that she. But it sure is difficult. Funny how we forget!

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  2. YES to all of this! Motherhood is so amazing and wonderful and hard and the best thing ever <3

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    1. Amen girl!!! Those words couldn't be more true!

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  3. YES to all! I miss so many moments now that my kids are older, the time does go tooo fast. Slow down and enjoy!

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    1. It goes way too fast! I really wish there was a way to slow it down!

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  4. These are beautiful! I am so excited to feel my heart grow to love another person like it will when we meet our little man. I can't wait for that! The no-sleep on the other hand I am NOT so eager to jump into...but like you said, I know it's worth it!

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    1. Thanks Lauren! The no sleep is hard! But you'll manage! And yes it's definitely worth it.

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  5. Love this and couldn't agree with you more! I used to dread those night wakings or times my little one would sneak into our bed in the middle of the night, but I actually miss it now!
    -Linh

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    1. My husband just said the other night he's going to miss it when she stops sneaking in our bed.

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  6. What a great post! We don't have any kids but I can see how all of this is so accurate just from watching my mom growing up or seeing friends dealing with their babies. Thanks for sharing :)

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  7. I love this. Brings back so many memories when my son was itty bitty and I was so clueless!! Thanks for this sweet and 'so true' post!

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    1. Thanks Chrissa! The itty bitty stage goes so fast! I'm so excited to do it again but so nervous!

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  8. YES! I cried the whole way to the hospital with number 2--- sure I was ruining number 1's life!

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  9. This is such a beautiful post. I don't have kids (yet) but I have an insane maternity bug these days... I'm going to share this with my bestie who is a new mom to a beautiful 4 month old girl who is already missing those days when baby girl just fit in the crook of her arm

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  10. I love this. And it's so true, you will always do it again, even with the hardest times! Your heart grows every time you add one<3

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    1. Right! They are too amazing to not do it again!

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  11. I'm so nervous about the no-sleep element some day. But I know that you always get through things that you have to. I also cry a lot already, so I'm sure I'll be a crying momma!

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    1. It's definitely hard! But so worth it!! Then you wanna do it again! It's hard to watch them in pain or when something is wrong! I still cry a lot when she cries! But motherhood is amazing. I'm sure you'll be a great mom!!!

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  12. Oh my goodness, this is all such fantastic truth! <3

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  13. I never thought it was possible to function on so little sleep! LOL!

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    1. Right?!! Its unbelievable some days!

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  14. So true! I would rather sleep than do most things, and it's amazing to me that I can be up so much with babies and still be able to get stuff done the next day (most of the time).

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    1. Yes most of the time ;). But we deserve the down time too

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  15. You are so right! I couldn't agree more with all of them. Especially, doing it all over again.

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    1. It's amazing what you forgot and want to do again!

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  16. Yes to all of these! The hair loss is truly awful, I would find it everywhere! Although I slightly disagree with missing the newborn 2am cuddles, I don't miss them yet... though we are considering a third!

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    1. Too funny Alison! Ahhh a third :). How exciting!

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  17. I don't know if you read my post at all about being scared to have a baby, but I really really needed to read this. Thanks so so much for sharing- seriously. I can see how these all would be true, and I love the encouragement that this post offers. Thanks again!

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    1. I am going to read it right now! Thanks for stopping by!

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