Wednesday, July 26, 2017

Kinley Reese

It sure has been a minute so I thought I would do an update, one kiddo at a time. Things have been extremely hectic and finding time to blog just hasn't happened.

Lets start with Kinley. Oh my gosh!! 3 is hard!! This has really been a challenge for us! She has always been a hard kid, demanding and wanting things her way all the time. I have always said with this girl, she is not going to do something until she is ready and not a second before that. Remember my birth story with her; I pushed for 5 hours and ended in a c-section. Yep this girl has her own agenda, always has. Matt and I have learned to step back a little and let her assert this independence she has. She is so strong willed and sassy right now, but the sweetest thing. She is our sour patch kid. Sour one second and sweet the next.

The tantrums are off the charts! The kicking, raising her hand like she is going to hit, slamming doors and yelling. It is a lot! We have very high expectations of her and really have to step back and remember she is 3.5 and has to learn things, while instilling manners and kindness. There really is a fine line with disciplining her and letting her figure things out. We do put her in timeout in her room when she gets out of control. Mostly because I know she needs the time to cool off and I don't want her putting any holes in my wall or her brother's head with the toys she throws. I pick her up, put her in her room and tell her to come out when she can say sorry. Usually she is screaming her head off and then quickly calms when I pick her up, saying "No thank you mom, I don't want to go to my room." Then I tell her yes she is going to her room and she can come out in a few and then the tantrum starts again. She will yell and scream for a few but then calms herself down and comes out. Most times she doesn't come out and say she is sorry but she is calm so we let her come out. She eventually will say she is sorry at sometime throughout the day and it ends up being a very random time, but she does it when she is ready and I never have to tell her again to apologize.

She usually is not mean, but we have had a few episodes of her being mean. I struggle with this. She is not a mean child. I don't know where it comes from, other than her just figuring things out. It really is hard to remember she doesn't have the coping skills we have and just sometimes doesn't know how to deal with situations that are frustrating. I mean really; sometimes I want to to scream at the top of my lungs and cry my eyes out too when things get frustrating. How can I tell her she can't do that?! Ahhhh parenting is tough! Most of the times she is the sweetest thing though! And the love she has for her brother melts my heart daily!

We had her speech tested a few months back because she isn't enunciating some syllables and words correctly and we wanted to be proactive and do something now if something needed to be done. Do you know how hard it is as a parent to admit there could be something wrong with your child?! So hard guys, but we knew we had to put our feelings aside and do what was best for Kinley. Thankfully the speech therapist said there is nothing to worry about. She does have a little bit of a frontal lisp but it should correct itself by the time she is 5, the struggles she has are 100% normal for her age and she is right on track. The therapist said she is one bright child and her articulation was above average. She had a great year in preschool and I know she has grown so much with her social skills. She amazes me everyday with things she tells me. They watch EVERYTHING, even when you think they are not watching, they are!

We had her in swim lessons since her 3rd birthday and decided to take a break for the summer. We will probably start again in the fall when hopefully things calm down a little. We wanted to give her a chance to participate in other activities as they came up over the summer. We tried gymnastics and she really liked it so we might start that up again as well. She is moving to a new preschool in the fall so we want to get through that transition first and see what activities they have to offer.

I can't believe she is going to be 4 in just a few short months! Like I said 3 has been tough for us but it has really been an eye opening learning experience for Matt and I. She is a great kiddo and we are so blessed to call her ours! While we have had a few downs with her the past few months we have had many more ups and we are very lucky! She is healthy, happy and loves her brother more than anything in the world!

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Summer Bucket List

Now that the warmer weather is here I have started to think about some things I really want to do this summer. It is hard to fit things in working full time but we always make time. I love summer, but most days are too hot for little ones here in VA Beach so we get out early! What is on your list for summer?

15 Things to do this Summer

1. Get to the beach. You would think living at the beach we would go frequently, but not so much. It is quite the feat to get to the beach, especially with two.

2. Get frozen yogurt

3. Go to the aquarium

4. Have a water balloon fight

5. Go swimming

6. Watch fireworks

7. Go to the Splash Pad

8. Have a cookout

9. Go on a bike ride

10. Have a picnic

11. Go to the waterpark

12. Go on a date

13. Go to a baseball game

14. Make homemade ice cream

15. Play in the sprinklers

Now to get out and start making memories. I have to say I have the best crew to make these memories with. What is on your summer bucket list?

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Bye Bye Bink - The Oily Way

If you follow me on Facebook or IG you know I have recently become obsessed with Young Living oils. I got my starter kit about 2 months ago and fell in love immediately.

The first night I set up the diffuser, Kinley fell asleep in 10 mins and she did not fight me or cry. I was shocked! I will be honest, I was not hooked yet but I was on my way. Matt was working that night, so I though maybe it was a fluke, but I sure as heck was not going to quit diffusing.

Second time the same thing. She did not fight me and was asleep in 10 mins. This has gone on since we got our starter kit 2 months ago. Now of course every night has not been perfect but this is leaps and bounds better from where we were 2 months ago. We also use a roller on her at night on her feet. She loves using her roller. We apply while we are reading stories and then right before we say her prayers. She helps me put the oils in the diffuser every night.

It has been a week since she gave her binks to the dentist. I was dreading it. About 6 months ago we tried the "binki fairy." It was a disaster! I am not joking, 3 days of HELL. She screamed at the top of her lungs and was up a million times a night. We were all miserable! No one was sleeping. After 3 days Matt and I decided to give her the bink back and we would try again at a later time. Fast forward 6 months, she had a dentist appointment and I told her she had to give her binks to the dentist because the babies needed them and they were messing her teeth. She was total agreeable, though she was with the binki fairy too so I wasn't sure how it would play out.

The first night wasn't great. She was up a few times a in the middle of the night but calmed down fairly easily. Each night progressively has gotten better. And now a week in, I haven't had her ask for her bink in a few days. I am so proud of her. I would 100% say our oily life has contributed to her being able to give up her binki without much fuss. I know this because we tried without and it was a mess! I am so thankful I decided to purchase my starter kit 2 months ago, best decision ever.

A few other ways I use my oils daily:

A drop of orange on my toothpaste morning and night to promote teeth whiteness

A drop or two of lemon in my water

Roll my roller along my neck and shoulder because I can not stop sleeping with my arm up, so I wake up with a kink every morning

Stress away on my wrists before I leave for work because I hate traffic

Peppermint and lemon in my desk diffuser at work so I stay awake

Gentle baby and lavender in the kids baths

Valor on my feet before bed

Stress away on my wrists and forearms before bed for the calming scent

If you are interested in joining me on this oily journey leave a comment or shoot me a message on FB or IG! I would love to teach you!

Friday, May 12, 2017

Life Lately

I haven't done much of an update about life lately so I wanted to share a few things.We have been so so busy with everything I feel like I can't keep up sometimes. #momlife right?

Zander turned 1 and we went on a little family getaway which was amazing and much needed. I was happy to be home though for all of us to get back to our sleep schedule. Traveling with kids is so hard. I really like being on a schedule so sometimes traveling is stressful. It is worth the memories and I will always choose to travel, but it doesn't mean it is any easier.

My sister came to visit with my new nephew James and we had an amazing time! I miss her so much and wish the kids could spend every weekend together. Some day!

On another note if you have seen some of my recent posts you know I have become oil obsessed.  I got my starter oil kit through Young Living and wonder why I didn't do it sooner! If you have been around here for awhile you know the struggles we have had with the kids in the sleep department. That was my initial reasoning for wanting to try the oils but overall I want to have a toxic free home and oils will give that to me.

I got my starter kit for my birthday just over a month ago and it has been life changing. The first night I used my diffuser Kinley did not fight us and went right to sleep. I wasn't getting my hopes up yet but I was so excited. I am happy to say this has continued since the first night. Now don't get me wrong there have been some nights that have been harder than others, but for the most part she goes to sleep in like 10 mins and does not cry or throw a fit. I have definitely found some oils work for her and some don't.

Not only are we using oils for sleep, but for many other things as well, I will save all that for another post because there are so many ways to use oils and I am so thankful I finally bought the kit after a lot of research. Do you use oils? What do you use them for? Probably a silly question since you can use them for everything but I would love to hear! If you have any questions or are interested in learning more I would love to help you out! Leave a comment, shoot me a message on FB or IG and we can chat oils! You won't be disappointed.

Thursday, May 4, 2017

Sister Time

My sister and my youngest nephew were just in Virginia Beach visiting. We had the best time. It was the first time I had met James and fell in love instantly. I was definitely missing his brother though. It is so hard being far away. The time we spend together is great but never long enough.

All three of these kiddos had a blast! I can't wait to plan our next trip to Colorado. Julie and I had a lot of one on one time because Matt worked Beach Weekend the entire weekend. I already miss her a lot!

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Zander - 12 Months

It has taken me a little while to write this post. I can't believe this is the last monthly post. You are officially a year old! I said it went fast with Kinley but it really went fast with you. When you have 2 kiddos things are so busy and the days fly by. You had a wonderful birthday party and an amazing photo shoot. We went out of town as a family for your birthday and had a great time, it was much needed family time.

Stats: You are 20lbs10oz and 30" long. You have definitely had a growth spurt and are growing like a weed. Your head is on the smaller side but it is long like mine so the doctor is not worried at all. You are meeting all milestones with no concerns. You are in size 3 diapers and wearing 12 month and some 18 month clothes.

Sleep: What a drastic change this month. We did sleep train you last month and it has made a world of difference. You can read more about that here, but if anyone is struggling with sleep and you think your kiddo is ready to be sleep trained give it a try, if it doesn't work try at another time. You usually go down about 7:15 and get up anywhere from 5-7am. If you get up before 6:30 I try to get you back to sleep because you are not ready to get up. Some days you will go back down, others are more difficult. Most nights I am still amazed you sleep through the night! We have added essential oils into our lives and I am loving the benefits you all are getting from them. Truly amazing! You are still napping 2 times a day. You usually go down around 930 and then again 1-2. They range anywhere from 45 mins - 2 hours.

Eat: Last month we had a really hard time with nursing. You are doing better this month but you like to hurry and don't last long unless we are in a quiet room, though the second you hear Kinley you basically jump out of my lap. You eat sooo much solid food I really don't know where you put it. I still nurse you on demand when I am not working, and when you wake up and before bed when I work. Since this post is going up so late and you are really 12.5 months now I am happy to say you have been bottle free for over a week. You drink you milk out of your cup, the 360 cup. It was the second cup we tried and you love it. You try to drink out of my cup daily but still haven't figured out the straw.

Play: You love playing with your sister. You love all the toys in her room, especially the play kitchen. You are a huge fan of putting things in things, like the toilet, so we have to make sure the bathroom doors are closed! You have loved reading books more this past month and I think it helps it is part of our nightly routine. It is so cute, you actually sit and listen. You still love swinging and have gotten more active at the park. You are walking all over the place and very steady on your feet. This started about a week after your first birthday. I thought it would take you a little longer but you will be running soon! You love playing chase with Kinley and just laugh your head off at her. I love watching the interaction between you two. Most of the time you both play really well together.

I can't believe you are 1!!! You have brought such joy to our lives and continue to each day! I am not quite sure what your sister would do with you and vice versa. When she goes to school in the morning she tells you, "I will be back Bubba, I love you!" You guys will always be best friends, at least that is what I hope for!

Monthly Updates:
Birth Story Part 1
Birth Story Part 2
1 Month
2 Months
3 Months
4 Months
5 Months
6 Months
7 Months
8 Months
9 Months
10 Months
11 Months

I am very proud I actually wrote a post every month. I kind of dropped off with your sister! Happy 1 year bub!!