Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Finding My Tribe

Being a mom is hard. There is no other way to put it. The hardest most rewarding job I have ever had and I wouldn't change it for the world. Finding mom friends is just as hard. Why? I don't know! We are all in the same boat, lets be friends! I have talked before about having support systems and how important it is. I would not be where I am today if I didn't find my tribe when I first got pregnant with Kinley. They have stood by me through it all! There are not many and I am 100% ok with that! I love them!

I have always been the one with not many friends and a homebody. I have my close friends and that is about the extent of it. The majority of my friends did not have kids and I didn't really know anyone that had kids. My sister of course has her first born but it was 11 years ago when I got pregnant with Kinley. She was way out of the newborn, baby and toddler years.

Motherhood can be lonely and isolating at times. I needed support; other mom support! I joined a few Facebook groups when we found out we were expecting, which turned out to be an amazing experience!  There was so much information; from other first time moms to moms that were on their 4th kiddo. I like to do my own research on things but it was great to be able to ask a question and get some feedback on something so new to me.

I will be honest it was hard initially connecting with strangers via the internet, but today some of the ladies from my groups are my best friends! I have even met a few of them in person and the kids have met, the connection we share is amazing! I feel like I have known them forever. I have also met a few moms via blogging and they are amazing as well! I am so thankful! I love that I can text one or three of them with a question about ANYTHING and they will give me their honest opinion. You ladies know that ANYTHING is so true! I have shared some of the most intimate things with these ladies.

Finding mommy friends is hard. I miss that my "internet" friends don't live close to me and we can't hang out all the time, because like I said they are some of my bestest friends and I go to them for everything! Being a new mom or even being a mom for the second time it was so important I had a support system. I needed someone going through what I was going through that could relate to what I was experiencing in the moment. I also love being able to provide that support back to them. The bond is something special that I wouldn't trade for the world.

Find your tribe friends! It is so important and has saved my sanity many many times, probably my husbands too :). I love my "internet" friends and am so thankful they have been apart of this journey called Motherhood.

Thursday, February 16, 2017

Zander - 10 Months

And just like that we are into double digit months. He will be one before I know it. We had a rough last month but we all survived.

The monthly pictures are really difficult to get as he is all over the place and does not want to sit still for anything. He is one busy boy! So much busier than his sister. She would accomplish skills and just move on to the next. He is content working on his skill for awhile before he moves on to the next one.

Stats: We did not have a 10 month check up but he did go to the doctor because Kinley was sick and wouldn't you know I forgot to get a weight check. I weighed him on our scale at home and he was about 19lbs. I really feel he is putting some weight on this last month. He is growing out of some of his 9 month clothes and we have officially moved into size 3 diapers. He can still fit into some of his 9 month clothes but they are getting tight, 12 months seem to be a better option for him now.

Sleep: Well we have had some good nights and some bad nights, lets be honest the majority of the nights have been bad.  He has mastered crawling and pulling up on everything. We transitioned out of the dockatot this last month so things have been difficult. He loves laying on his side and will sometimes move to his tummy. He seems to be waking up and having a difficult time going back to sleep. We still nurse or rock to sleep for nap and night. I know we need to teach him to fall asleep on his own but I really love the cuddles before he falls asleep. He is still taking 2 naps a day and going down for the night around 6:30-7ish. Who doesn't want to cuddle that handsome boy!

Eat: He still loves his food. He has seemed less interested in letting us feed him this past month. He really wants to do things himself. We are trying to do prunes daily to help ease his constipation issues which I think is helping. We have tried a few cups and I think have finally found one he loves! The munchkin 360 cup. He still gets bottles of breastmilk while I am working and has no issues with the bottle. We will probably try to get rid of the bottle around 12 months or somewhere around there. We didn't do breastmilk in a cup for Kinley but might go straight to the 360 cup for him, he loves drinking his water out of it. I am down to two pumping sessions a day and will probably wean from the pump after his first birthday.

Play: He has gotten so much more interactive this past month. Like I said he has started crawling and pulling up on everything. He is fast too. This all happened in about a weeks time. He is a pro at getting into cabinets and pulling up on the tables. We really need to baby proof things. He loves to swing and go on walks in his wagon. I am sure by Spring he will be chasing his sister at the playground. Like I said he is everywhere and into everything which makes him so hard to bathe! He does not stay on his butt and tries crawling around and pulls up on the side of the tub. He has slipped a few times which doesn't phase him one bit. He loves the water and goes right back to doing what he was doing, he doesn't miss a beat.

Happy 10 months Bub! I am so lucky you call me mommy and I love you so very much!