Sunday, February 28, 2016

3 Tips For Remaining Positive through Difficult Times

Sometimes it is hard to be positive when you keep getting crappy news. There have been a few things that have really put Matt and I in the dumps lately. The most recent being his schedule is going to change AGAIN. Just when we thought we had things figured out for when I go back to work a wrench is thrown into our plans.


I have never really blogged about being a police officer's wife but it is really draining at times. And now that he is a detective he is on call basically 24/7. I will be honest there are not many times he gets calls at 2AM but they do happen and that isn't even the worst part. I think the dedication they have to have and the ability to adapt to the 8000 changes is the draining part. But he loves what he does and we have many more years of it so we make it work.

I have felt that lately with all the disappointing news we have gotten has really made me appreciate how lucky we are. We truly have a lot to be thankful for and we very much are thankful for what we have. We are truly blessed.  I want to share some ways that being thankful during difficult times is still possible.

1. Lean on Each Other:

Matt doesn't get down about too many things. He is usually able to see the positive and move through the difficult news we have gotten. Well this last time he was really bummed with receiving news that we owe on our taxes. It just isn't good timing, but really is owing money ever good timing. This time I was able to really believe things would be ok and work out financially. With us looking at losing some income due to maternity leave it is definitely a stressor to owe more money at this time. I was able to be the positive one in this situation and tell Matt things will be ok and we will make it work one way or another. It is really important to attempt to maintain a positive outlook even when things are not looking so positive. Being there for one another really helps during trying times. It has been helpful to have some some wonderful friends that listen to me as well.

2. Be Thankful for What you Have:

Let's be honest we know this one isn't always easy. Especially when all you see on social media is everyone's perfect lives and things feel like they are crumbling before your eyes. We know everyone has difficulties and deal with their own struggles in their own ways. Matt and I are extremely thankful for what we have and know things could always be worse and there will probably be worse times at some point. Being able to look at the positive things we have in life really helps during these difficult times. I know deep down we will get through whatever is thrown at us. Just remembering what we have is very helpful to us.

3. Believing That you are Not Handed More Than You Can Handle:

I am a firm believer of this one. There have been several times that I have thought if one more bad thing happens I am going to lose it. Though in the back of my head I know God will not give us more than we can handle so we keep trucking along. We are not extremely religious people but we do believe in this.


We will get through these difficult times together! Then something else will happen and we will need to remember this again. Life is not easy but remaining positive and hopeful as well as having each other really helps!

Stay positive! Things could always be worse!



6 comments:

  1. Great article. I don't believe in God, but I do believe that as people we can handle more than we think. Just think about all the things you've accomplished in your life so far, and it'll put things into perspective. Thanks for the advice :)

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    1. Very good point! Thanks for the reminder!

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  2. Great post! Though, I disagree with number three. If God were to give me only what I could handle, then I'd never lean on Him. I can only do what I can when I have His strength to strengthen me. :)

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    1. True! Thanks for stopping by Summer!

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  3. For me, one of the best ways to get through hard things is to just focus on today. How can I get through today? That's all I have to do at this very moment. When it's the absolute worst? I just focus on how to get through the next few hours. Takes a load off not having to worry about everything.

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    1. Yes! I need to live more in the moment. One step at a time!

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