Jam Packed Weekend Fun

Oh my gosh what a busy weekend!! I actually had a 3 day weekend this weekend since I worked Thursday. It was pretty amazing but it was jammed packed! My hubby even had 3 days off with me! I seriously can't remember the last time that has happened! This is what I came home to the other night! It was so sweet!

Friday we went and had sushi and Kinley was not good! We hardly ever go out to eat and I was reminded why we never do. Taking a 20 month old out to eat is challenging! She definitely didn't want to sit still. Don't let the cute pictures fool you :). I guess we should have just dropped her off at the in laws and enjoyed a peaceful lunch. I just feel bad because they help us out so much during the week, I don't like to bug them on our days off. Anyways lunch was yummy then we headed to the mall. I wanted to check out sizes at Old Navy because I had a coupon for online purchasing. Kinley is so in between sizes so I wasn't sure what size she would be in for some fall clothes. Surprisingly she was pretty cooperative with letting me try 18 pieces of clothes on her. Of course I let her play in the play area for a few before we headed home for nap time for all.

We cleaned and cleaned and made a yummy dinner! It was buffalo chicken quiona wraps. You definitely need to try it! They were delicious.

Saturday we had a great day! We had plans to have breakfast at the zoo with the animals though it was raining. I was quite bummed. We headed out anyways to meet up with one of my girlfriends and her two kids. The rain eventually cleared up and we had a fabulous time. The girls acted like they were best friends and had the time of their life. We headed home, ate some lunch, and all took naps again. Man was it glorious! I can't even remember the last time I got a nap in, let alone 2 days in a row!

We had to run out to Walmart and boy was I reminded at how much I dislike that place! It is just too busy for me! It isn't worth the added stress to me. We picked up the majority of our groceries for the week and will run to the grocery store later in the week if need be. I had a lot of things already at home.

We have really started working on decluttering the house in hopes we will find renters soon and be able to buy a bigger house. Wow is that a draining process. We seriously have so much stuff....how does one get so many things in such a small place.

Sunday we met with our realtor to start this whole house hunting process. We spent about an hour and a half in his office then he wanted to go look at houses. Kinley was already spent. Me too to be honest. Thankfully Matt's parents were able to come over and watch her so she could get a nap in. We are so very lucky to have them so close. PS...there is no getting out of the house with a toddler without her baby plus a million other things! But hey she is cute and was smiling so I will take it!

We were only able to look at 3 houses due to the others not being available. We really loved one of the houses and just like that put in an offer. Dang was that scary. Unfortunately they did not accept due to use needing to rent. That is fine....it wasn't meant to be! And if I am being honest I really want something a little bigger to grow with us. It was perfect in every other way but a little small. We just need to be patient and we will find the perfect house!

Did I mention decluttering and finding a home for everything is exhausting! We did a little more of that Sunday night and then after getting in the contract I was ready for bed. Hence why this post is a day late. I didn't even sleep well because I had so much on my mind! We had a really full weekend!

I hope everyone else's was great! Have a fabulous week! If you have any rental tips please please share!

Finding a Balance

I have been struggling with this thought in my head for awhile now and how to tackle it; technology and how to find a balance with children and more specifically how to find the right balance for my child. Technology for children these days is such an important part of their life. It is their world and what they are growing up with. Things have changed so much since I grew up and I need to remember that, but I also want to find the right balance.

From the beginning I knew I didn't want Kinley sitting in front of the TV at a young age. The AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) recommends no screen time until 2.  You can read more about there recommendations here. We made it 15 months with no significant time in front of a screen. In times of need she was allowed to listen to music on our phones and or place an educational app if needed.

When I was little there was not much TV. I don't really remember my parent's restricting our screen time, but more so just not wanting to watch TV. We had the desire to be outside, or playing doctor, school or airplane if we were stuck in the playroom. I don't feel like there was a desire to watch TV or be on the computer when we eventually got one that we were allowed on. Though I do remember waiting patiently for my turn on our computer with the dial up Internet to come up. It was so exciting.
Today so much has changed. When it comes to my husband and I we probably spend entirely too much time on our phones and computer but we are trying to get better and hey this post isn't about what I do :).

Today's world is so different when it comes to technology. The computer is some children's life line. There are so many positive aspects of having the technology we have today. It is saving lives! I think there is a definite difference in letting children benefit and learn from technology vs. developing a dependency on the screens. As parents we all want what is best for our children, so what is best? How do you find that happy medium?

It is unbelievable how much my daughter already knows about technology at 20 months! You would seriously think she sits in front of the TV all day long or playing games on my phone is the only thing she does. It is scary to me! She watches what we do a few times and picks up on everything. It is quite amazing! I promise she does many other activities that she loves, she is just smart! The kid didn't even watch her first show until she was about 15 months old. We tried making it until the age of 2 but life gets in the way at times and sometimes after trying every other thing under the sun I give in. Choose your battles wisely right :).  I am not perfect and neither is my child, but we do our best and we do what works for our family.

I have seen her throw herself on the floor with the most dramatic tantrum ever because #1 I will not turn on the TV or #2 she can't have my phone. It is awful sometimes. It makes me regret ever giving her the phone. On the other side of that though there are great learning apps that we love and sometimes I really need 10 minutes. Yes I am sorry I am human! In the mornings it is just her and I and sometimes this momma needs a shower and there is no other way to keep a 20 month old from taking everything out from under the sink and putting it in the toilet while I take the faster shower of my life. They are fast little stinkers I tell you! So yes I give her my phone to learn her ABC's while I take a shower.

With all that being said I have discovered some tips that have helped me find a balance with benefiting from technology and developing a dependence on it.

1. Have Guidelines

Kinely knows when she gets up she is allowed to watch 1-2 shows, it depends on the time she gets up because at 7:00am I don't like the shows that are on so the TV goes off. I really have no clue how we even got in this habit but it is part of our routine, so for right now she is allowed to watch PBS while she eats her breakfast and drinks her milk. We don't have cable and for the most part I think the shows on PBS are great. When she watches TV it is Sesame Street or Curious George. She loves Curious George. She knows that after Sesame Street is over the TV goes off and it is time to find something else to do. Most days the TV never gets turned back on. There are some nights she watches a little George before her bath. I am pretty strict about how much TV she gets to watch. I don't like her being glued in front of the TV for a long period of time and plus it isn't good for her eyes. So we will always limit screen time. She rarely gets our phones anymore because she just loves it too much and it was starting to bother me. Like I mentioned above if I have to take a shower or do something where I can't keep my eyes on her the chance is I will give her my phone. I have a few educational apps that she loves and I am ok with.

I do believe there is a difference if she is learning and interacting with the screen she is watching. Like I said there are some great educational apps out there; we love the Fisher Price apps and Speakaboos. She also loves looking through videos and pictures. I do think that is learning because we talk about all her family that isn't close. That way she knows who I am talking about when I tell her we are going to Colorado.

2. Get excited

Getting excited about doing puzzles, reading books, coloring and building towers with blocks helps. Of course there are fun other indoor activities but those are some of our favorites. When I ask Kinley if she wants to do activities I make a big deal about them. I want her know I am excited too! It is extremely important to us to have Kinley not want to sit in front of the TV when she starts getting bored. There are so many fun indoor activities that can stimulate her mind. One of Kinley's favorite activities is to read books. She absolutely loves them! I really need to get a new book shelf to hold all the books we have. We also visit the library frequently for story time and to just hang out and pick out new books. They have many activities going on that don't include a screen. She LOVES going to the library and our library has the best children's section. We just finished our first story time at our local library and it was fantastic. We can't wait to sign up for the fall session. And it's free!! Win Win!!

3. Play Outside

We want her to play outside and know other activities are just as fun. Like I mentioned I never watched TV as a kiddo, I was always outside. Riding my bike, building snow forts, playing in our tree house, or just hanging out with friends talking...outside. Kinley really enjoys being outside. We have a few outdoor activities to include a sandbox, a water table, a sprinkler, a kiddie pool and chalk to name a few. Almost every night we go outside after dinner and draw with chalk. We have so much fun! As you can tell Kinley loves chalk and daddy is quite the artist. During the days it has been pretty hot, but we have some trees in our backyard that provide a lot of shade so I set up her water table and she plays away. We also have a park within walking distance that we visit often as well. Right now we go early in the morning before it gets too hot because it gets very sunny. Read more about our fun in the sun here.

Those are a couple quick tips that help me balance a little better. I do feel it is important to let Kinley understand what technology is and how to use it. Yes yes I know she is only 20 months, but I firmly believe instilling balance right now is important. There are definitely positives on both sides, though I want Kinley to know she can make friends by talking to people and not by her face stuck in a computer. Ironic that some of my best friends I met online and I am sitting here typing this with my face shoved in a computer :). But...we are talking about balance, I have many friends that I met face to face. Lets be honest though, I think we all could benefit from unplugging a little more often. I want to be a good example for my child so I will always do my best.

Have you seen that new Nature Valley ad? I do not want my child saying her favorite thing is to sit in front of a TV or computer screen. Oh my!!!

What are some ways you find balance with allowing your kids screen time?